Cancel Our Wedding Plans for a Late Planned Family Wedding?
My husband's cousin just got engaged and is getting married in a month. He wants to have my husband in his wedding. He was my husband's best man at ours. Unfortunately, we have already RSVPed to my friend, to be at her wedding, months ago! I really don't want to cancel on her, especially since she was my bridesmaid, and she doesn't have a lot of family support. We aren't sure what to do, I suppose we could split up and attend different weddings. But we are married, and shouldn't married people attend together? The weddings are in different states.
Suggestion:
You can't expect him to reschedule his wedding date (solely) for your convenience, but he can't expect you to drop prior important social engagements for his wedding. You could different weddings attend separately, but only if you wish too (in this case I don't see an obligation to attend to together). You would be well within reason to prefer to attend together and to honor your first commitment.
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your husband's cousin should move his wedding date to accomodate your plans if he really wants your husband in his wedding. it is inconsiderate of him to expect to plan a rushed wedding like this without first consulting with all the people he wants in his wedding to make sure they are available on that date. since his is the most recently planned affair, it is up to him to either move the wedding date or not expect you and your husband to be able to attend.
you are correct that you should go as a married couple to the first wedding you had already committed to attending. your husband's cousin needs to realize that weddings are something that are planned for months or even years in advance by rational adults.
It is not a requirement that married people be attached at the hip. If the cousin is unwilling to reschedule his wedding at this late date, there is nothing wrong with each of you attending the separate weddings.
are they the same time? cant you make a round trip? other wise its okay to go to weddings by yourselfs.
damn that sucks may be cousin won't get married in a month did they plan it on the same day damn