Ending Toxic Relationships

Moving on after a toxic relationship is not an easy task to do, especially for us women. More often than not, when we are trying to end a toxic relationship, a big dilemma sets in. The dilemma is: one side of your brain tells you to stay with him and the other side tells you to stay away from him. Trying to figure out which side is good for you can really be hard, but it really possible.

Often we feel that we need to let go of our emotions really quick. The quick solution? Get revenge by saying bad things about your boyfriend on your favorite social networking site or on your blog where you can rant and rave about your toxic relationship. But they are just quick solutions and may not make you feel better at all. Here’s a list of the right things to do when you are up to end your toxic relationship.

Get those tears out. Crying alone in your room could help, but you can surely do better than that. Get those tears out in a movie! Ask a friend or two to watch a movie with you and when the mushy part sets in, cry it all out. Your friends probably wouldn’t care if you cry even by just seeing two polar bears snuggling up, it is a mushy moment after all.

Under no circumstances should you call him. Remember, this relationship was toxic. As much as you may yearn to hear his voice, think of the phone as a transmitter for those poisonous relationship toxins to seep back into your system. The longer you can go without dialing him up or seeing him face-to-face, the stronger you will grow.

List the good things and the bad things about the relationship, then compare. If your relationship is toxic, you definitely will have a long list of bad things, enough to convince you to really end the relationship with him and move on.

Have an outlet for your pent-up energy. If you are feeling stressed because of your relationship, it’s best to draw your attention to something that you love doing. Learn photography or anything you can enjoy that requires your creative mind working. Channel your emotions into activities, which can be meaningful to you. If you do so, you are not just helping your mind wander about something else, but it helps you see and understand your feelings more through what you create as well.

Talk it out. Have your good friends, sisters or any family member who care about what you feel. They are those people who are most willing to lend an ear and hear you, even your rants and raves, or just babbling about what the relationship used to be like.

Breakup happen to all of us, but they are optional. If you think you can patch the things up with your boyfriend then do something to work the relationship out. Compromise, but do not sell yourself short. Remember, it’s normal to feel bad, annoyed, and even angry when ending toxic relationships… but beating yourself up is too much. If you feel that it won’t really work out, then move on and deal with spending your life without your ex. You can always keep on dating, after all.

Candice Garcia tells you how to end a toxic relationship well. You can find more articles on her relationship blog at http://getexbackmagic.com.