Husband Is Cheating On Me: How Do I Stop Him?

You’ve found yourself stuck in a situation you most fear of – the day you realize that your husband is having an affair.  You were devastated of course.  You were really hurt that you thought you couldn’t go on anymore.  Luckily, you’ve had enough time to think things through and you’ve decided to stay despite the pain and the humiliation.  After weighing things through your decision is now final; you want to fix the marriage.

It will be difficult to forget that once in your married life, your husband slept with another girl.  That is a fact.  However, if you will keep on digging an old grave, you won’t be able to move on.  There are times that looking for the solution is much better than looking for the person to blame why such a horrible thing happened.  However, if you can’t stop yourself from blaming your husband for having a mistress, it will be better to think of it this way:  ”It takes two to tango.”  Yes.  He has the most faults on this.  He was the one who chose to have an affair.  But if you will think of it, you might have pushed him to do so, one way or the other.  You might have forgotten to take care of yourself.  You might have neglected your waistline.  You could have stopped making him coffee whenever he gets home just like the way you used to.  Or maybe, you don’t want to have kids because you are afraid of losing those curves you worked so hard for at the gym.  You could have been depriving him of explosive sex.  There are plenty of reasons but what you need are plenty of solutions.  Because right now, all you want to do is to stop him from having an affair.

The question is how you will do so.

I am assuming right now that you have confirmed that he really is having an affair.  I will set the scenario in a situation where you have gathered all your evidences that will make your statement concrete and true.  If this is the case, what you need to do now is to talk to him.

You will have to confront him.  You have to make him admit that he is indeed having an affair.  Brace yourself for his admittance because it is going to be extra painful.  If you thought that having the knowledge that he is having an affair is painful enough, think again.  Because it is more painful when you hear it coming out right from his mouth.

You will be angry of course.  You could even scream at him, hit him or throw things at him.  But try so hard to be calm.  Calm yourself.  Then let him explain.  Why was he able to do such a horrendous thing?  What went wrong?  Communication is the key.

You have to listen to him.  Listen to his qualms and alibis.  From there you will learn the things that you need to do in order to stop him from doing so.

Be reminded that you should always make yourself attractive to the eyes of your husband.  Your marriage contract is never a guarantee that you two will be together forever.  You need to work for it.

A bold move that you can do, could be confronting the other girl.  She may not be aware that the guy she’s dating is married.  This is a possibility.  Now if the case is otherwise, you can have a heart to heart talk and tell her (from a woman to another woman) to stay away from your husband.  It works for men.  It could work for girls too.