Wouldn’t it be great if things could remain that way? Well we all know that things change. Some good changes happen and some bag changes happen.
Flash forward, a few months or even few years later and boy does it seem that things change drastically. The person we used to rant and rave about with nothing but compliments, now we complain to our friends about constantly always telling them what they do or dont do.
Relationship disappointments are inevitable. Your partner will say something that hurts you and there will be days when you’re tempted to call the whole thing off. So how about changing that around and concentrating not just on the negatives when talking to your friends, but also the positive.
Life is all about balance. Though it’s important to be able to vent to your partner about your frustrations, it’s just as important that you mention the good things to them. Too much of one or the other won’t create a healthy relationship and causes imbalance. Too much balance in the negative column and the whole relationship will collapse.
I’m not saying that you shouldn’t share either the good or the bad about your mate with your friends. But a little restraint goes a long way. You need to think about when to share and how much to share. Take a deep breath and give it some thought before your mouth runs away with itself.
This helps in a couple of ways. First, it allows you to get insight before talking to your mate or anyone else. I believe it is important to trust your own voice or gut in a situation. If after the time of inward thinking you still feel confused, then it may be necessary to talk to someone.
When this happens, talk about the situation but balance it with positive information as well as complaints about your mate. Giving both sides helps the person listening not just take your side. Sometimes the person listening will be able to find the positive and give you a way to praise your mate. Remember, there was something special about them that made you date them in the first place. Keeping this in mind will help you be able to approach what is going on with an open mind.
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