Invited to Sisters Wedding – Should I Go?

Hi my names Julie. I am a post op m-f transsexual. My problem is that I have been invited to my younger sisters wedding on 12th June even though I haven't seen any of my family for 5 years. The invitation came out of the blue and my sister tells me she wants me to be part of her big day. She tells me that my older brother and sister and parents want to build bridges with me and want me to be present on her wedding day.

My question is should I go? My parents disowned me when I announced that I wanted a sex change at the age of 17 (approx 12 years ago) and although I saw them briefly after my announcement, I haven't seen any of my family in the last few years. I do however speak to my younger sister fairly regularly.

If I do attend how do I go about introducing myself as their sister and daughter Julie and what should I wear to this big church wedding?

I would really appreciate any help

Thanks
Julie

Suggestion:

Yes, you should go. It's your sister's wish, not your parents'.

Choose respectable, subtle attire that sort of bridges the gap between the old you and new you. Slacks with a nice blouse and/or 3/4 tailored jacket would be nice. Introduce yourself as Julie, because you don't look like a man anymore I'm sure, and your new identity IS who you are.

You will get comments and questions, especially from people who remember Josh, or whoever you used to be. Politely answer their questions, but quickly change the subject. The guests should be talking about how lovely the bride looks and how lucky the groom is, NOT about the bride's transsexual sibling. Occasionally you might even have to say, "Yes, I did used to be Josh, but all my life I felt as though I were someone else, which is why I'm now Julie. However, if you'll forgive my directness, I do not wish to discuss me because it's my sister's day and I'd never want to deflect attention from her."

Good luck, Julie. Remember, no matter what anyone tries to say or do, your greatest strength is being true to yourself. =)

PS… Cammie also has a great idea to meet with your family and let them say whatever they're going to say beforehand. Stay strong, keep repeating that this wedding is about your sister and her happiness, and you don't want it to be about you. If they can't accept you, then at least you can agree to let them ignore you. Not the best option, but better than attracting unwanted attention.