First let’s look at why men fear it so much while women run to it. For many men commitment is synonymous to prison. Once they get into that relationship their freedom flies out the window. Just watch a couple and see the demands the woman can put on the man. She’s barely moved in with him and already she’s rearranging the living space. Suddenly the Sunday afternoons that he spent enjoying a football game are something of the past.
If your man has experienced this type of suffocating relationship before, or if he has witnessed what marriage has done to his friends, or has even grown up watching this in his parents, it’s easy to understand his reluctance to hand his pleasant life over for you to control and snuff.
Getting involved in a serious and committed relationship requires a lot of maturity on both your parts. If you’re looking for a man to sooth your insecurities and you want him to fill your life, there’s a good chance you’ll choke the fun out of him.
Try to have your life as together as you can before you set out to build a life with someone else. It doesn’t have to be perfect, but if he sees that you have a lot of things going on, that you have a good job, fun hobbies, interesting friends and an active social life, he won’t feel that weight on his shoulders; the weight of having to be everything to you.
He wants to have fun, excitement and thrills with you and also enjoy the quiet and serene moments he shares with you. If he can envision his future life with you to be this fun and this easy, he’ll be more apt to want to make that commitment.
But if you come in blazing, already ordering him around, putting down the things he loves and trying to play boss within the couple, are you really surprised he doesn’t want to fall in love with you.
Take a step back from yourself and really look at what you’re doing. Would you want to commit to you?
Relationships aren’t about controlling the other; it’s about sharing great times, lots of love and a desire to make the other happy. He’ll fall in love easily if that’s what he’s offered.
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This article is contributed by Tina Jones from the Unforgettable Woman Publishing Team. She works together with founder Alexandra Fox and writes dating/relationship articles for women. You can find more about Unforgettable Woman Publishing by visiting their website.
