Nothing beats sex for a true feeling of mind and body intimacy. And as wonderful as sex is, there’s also something pretty special about kissing. It communicates not only passion but the emotion as well. For most it’s an integral part of expressing their physical romance.
That is, when the person you’re with does it well. Unfortunately, your love and talent for kissing doesn’t always mean you’ll find the same things in the people you date. And since nobody ever writes “great person but terrible kisser” on their internet dating profile, there’s not much you can do about the kissing thing but wait and see. Kissing ability is not so easy to predict beforehand. After all, some of the best-looking, most sensual-seeming people are the worst kissers. It’s kind of tragic, really.
But just because somebody you date is a not-so-great kisser doesn’t mean you have to dump them there and then. Some people have simply never learned how to do it properly. Met somebody wonderful on an internet dating site and like everything about them but their lip-lock? Read of for tips on helping your partner improve his or her technique… without hurting anybody’s feelings.
What Bad Kissers Do Wrong
Most bad kissers make the same mistakes. The most common by far is too much tongue. Blame the movies they’ve watched or the friends they’ve talked to. Kissing someone like this is doing battle with your tongues; full force. But let’s face it; having someone stick their tongue down your throat is never sexy.
Fixing It
Provided you never want to date this person again, feel free to tell them their technique sucks (pun intended!). Otherwise you’re best to avoid mentioning it altogether. Why? Because no matter how nicely and gently to tell them, they’re going to be embarrassed in a big way. You’re going to have to take the lead on this, without ever uttering a word.
In order to be able to teach somebody to kiss better, you’ve first go to get them interested in the kiss in the first place. Then, when it’s obvious they’re into it, pull away slightly and force them to slow down. Don’t let them feel rejected. Simply change the pace in order to break up the monotony of the kiss and to help you introduce new elements.
Put away your light saber, Luke! If the person you’re kissing really seems to want to engage in a tongue-battle, you’ve got to be the first one to disengage your tongue. Instead, begin to focus on the lips, changing the pace and style of the kiss.
When you’ve settled the battle of the tongues, you need to introduce your partner to other kissing options and elements of good kissing. If there’s any hope at all, your partner will love the new sensations which in turn will light a bulb in his or her head to start experimenting. Sucking and nibbling your partners lips (gently of course!) are the way to start!
Once you’ve got your partner trying new things within the kiss, fall back and let them take the kissing lead. Over time, they should discover the joys of a sensual and varied kiss, and let their creativity take over. And all without realizing that you were teaching them anything.
