1) Let down of expectations. Many men have this lifelong fantasy of what it will be like to be married. There will be wild sex every night and every morning you’ll wake up to a beautiful woman by your side. When you come home from work dinner will be on the table and the dishes will magically clean themselves and put themselves away at night. You won’t need to do anything to keep your house in order except mow the lawn every Saturday during the warmer months. It’s a nice dream but reality is a different story altogether. Adjust your expectations and meet your modern wife somewhere in the middle or the relationship is doomed. The problem is the woman you are cheating with won’t deliver those things for you either.
2) Feelings of inadequate adoration. Men love to be adored. You are not the only one, my friend. Men love having attention lavished upon them. More than that they enjoy basking the glow of someone else’s adoration and respect. Criticism, even when lovingly bestowed, is hard to handle but your wife doesn’t know this. She isn’t a mind reader and women are accustomed to criticism on all sides. They’ve learned to take it in stride and roll with it. You just need to learn how to let it roll off your back and take the compliments when they come…as they come.
3) Failure to communicate. Oh boy, you had to know that one was coming. Despite common misconceptions your wife cannot read your mind. There may be times when she is dead on with what you are thinking and other times when she is miles off. Do not hold her accountable by not giving you what you want or what you need when you aren’t letting her know. Here’s another thing you need to know. Hinting around doesn’t work. She might be reading something else entirely by your hints than you’re trying to say. Use words and tell her what you want from her. You will be 99.9% more likely to get what you want than if you never tell her or keep tossing out hints that she’s misreading. Also, if you have no idea what’s going on with her, there’s usually no harm in asking (provided you ask in a loving rather than critical manner, of course).
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