This is what I noticed while sitting next to the pond. It’s really very funny, a stone is so much harder than water (people dive into water but not on rocks) and yet look what happens when the hard stone falls into the water; the water engulfs to stone until you don’t see it anymore. It seems that the stone is enjoying its new home. It fits in so perfectly. After noticing this I thought to myself let me try this in the next disagreement with my wife. It wasn’t long to come.
I happen to like to sleep in a warm bedroom, to such a degree that in the middle of the summer I sleep with a quilt. My wife can’t believe I’m cold because she sweats even when the air conditioner is on! This was the question: how to reconcile such a difference.
I had an idea that I learned from the stone and pond; I won’t say anything and I’ll put the a/c on and see what will be. But I guess she had the same idea (maybe she was sitting by a different pond). My wife works a night job so she goes to sleep later then me and when she would come in after I was asleep she closed the a/c.
This went on for a few weeks and every night I put it on before I went to sleep and she would turn it off; just like the rock and water!
This is the best recipe for a happy marriage; be like that water- be very flexible and don’t push your point. In the end you will win. It is similar to what others are called reverse psychology. This is when you stop resisting on what the other flow is dictating making your wife feel that you are okay with the idea of turning the a/c on despite of the fact that you love the warm temperature more. In this regard your spouse will even think that is too generous of you and it is high time that she will return the favor.
What happened in the end? I finally told my wife, “This is so dumb! I know that you are trying to be a good wife and make me happy, but in the end we both don’t sleep well, I don’t sleep well in the beginning of the night because it’s too cold and you also don’t sleep well because it’s too hot”.
However, we both know for sure that we are just making each other feel better. Thus, we sit down together. (We even thought that sitting together next to a pond would be a great idea). The end: She agreed that I use two quilts and we live happily ever after.
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