Saving Your Marriage—how to Start Loving Your Spouse Once Again if You Are Getting Fed Up with Them

The consequences of breaking up the family can be horrible. The implications of the process of divorce involving litigation, custody of children, alimony and much more can be devastating financially, physically and emotionally. And then, how can you be sure if your next wife will be a paragon of beauty and virtues and that you would not be fed up with her too?

 Quite often the real reasons for breaking up the marriage are actually different from those we offer to our friends, family members or the court. The truth is that we do not wish to admit those reasons to ourselves as well because we feel guilty. We know that our reasons are neither morally nor legally valid for divorce.

 For instance, we may have started feeling bored of our wife and do not feel sexually excited with her any more. We want change. Then we start finding excuses for quarrels. We magnify her minor offences or sometimes find faults where none exists.

 Of course, sometimes, the problems can be genuine as well. You may differ with opinions, habits and actions of your spouse.

 I believe most marital problems including those you honestly consider genuine can be resolved only if you are really interested in solving them. There is always a way out if we are generally interested in exploring it.  The truth is that most people do not wish to resolve the problems due primarily to their ego and desires.

 A permanent refrain that reverberates in their head is: Why did he/she do/say this/that after all? We magnify our ego to such an extent that we refuse to look into the reasons that led him/her to do/say what they did.

 And the best way to resolve the issues is to do honest and objective introspection. For example we may think on these lines:

1. Why is my spouse not entitled to have his/her own views even if they clash with mine?

2. Am I sure that all my views are correct and reasonable?

3. Is it not possible that my spouse too is tolerating—suffering– some of my habits, actions and thoughts even much more than I profess to tolerate his/hers?

4. Does she/he have absolutely no good quality?

5. If so, why did I marry her/him? She/he looked perfectly fine at the time of marriage, you argue, but developed these nasty habits thereafter. If that is true, do you think there is nothing in you that could have provoked her/him to be nasty?

 Most issues can be resolved by thinking on these or similar lines provided you are really interested and determined to save your marriage.

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