With all the crazy feelings and desperation flying around, it is really easy to mess up your situation even more by staying in contact with your ex and accidentally flying off the handle with an outburst that you later realize you really shouldnt have said if you wanted to get him back. There are ways to deal with this, however.
Its a very good tip that you hear a lot, take a break…give him some space, and no contact. Whats less often specified is how long to keep up this term of no contact, but the safe rule of thumb is usually about a month. 30 days without seeing his face or hearing his voice can be rough, but its the best option at this point if you want him back.
It is absolutely crucial, however, that you stick to this rule with no straying! A lot of people fall into one of the two following mistakes and break the No Contact rule, making it all the harder to regain the respect and affection of your ex:
1. Drunk Dialing. If you expect to never feel lonely, start expecting it. Your ex being gone leaves a big hole, and a lot of peope choose to try to fill that hole with alcohol. It can help take the edge off, but I dont advise you drink your problems away, or one particularly lonely night you just may find your judgement failing you, and you make a phone call you know you shouldnt.
2. Text Message Terrorism. Being cut off from the one you love can make a person really desperate to win her ex back…so much so that without thinking of how it appears, she starts bombing him with an onslaught of messages, phone calls, and emails that only result in her looking like a head case. You dont want to ruin how your ex sees you, so stop yourself whenever you start to get the urge to do this.
Its important to fight against these mistakes, as slipping could cost you a lot…too much to risk. If you can keep a good hold of yourself, you will be far more prepared for when you start talking again, and have a much better chance of getting him back.
Through all this, the top value of this breaktime isnt damage control, its the breathing room you have to plan your next move…in fact, plan all your next moves Having an underlying strategy or technique to use makes your life exponentially easier, and best of all is if you can find a proven-effective process from another resource.
Just broken up? Get immediate relief from break up agony and a proven process to get your ex back with Magic of Making Up. Free articles and info at http://www.magicofmakingup.com/.
