Know What You Are Really Feeling
Often, especially when the marriage has been going bad for awhile, the hurt and anger are all that you can see. You can lose track of the feelings that led to the anger. What is it that you two started fighting about in the first place? Is it because one or both of you were feeling under appreciated? Maybe one of you shows very little respect for the wants and needs of the other. Whatever the true reasons are, you need to discover what they are. If you don’t get to the bottom of the issue then you will never be able to really resolve anything.
Don’t Lie
Obviously trust is important to a good marriage, but the fact is that almost all of us lie. We don’t only lie to our spouses, but often we lie to ourselves as well. Be honest with yourself about what it is that your truly want or need, then share those truths with your spouse. Often we lie to our spouses to protect their feelings. This may be a bad strategy. In this case we end up hurting ourselves to protect our spouses feelings and in the long run this will lead to bad feelings and resentment.
Let Go
At some point it will be necessary to let go of past mistakes. No one gets through this life without messing up. If you do not let your spouse off the hook for mistakes made in the past then the anger will continue to build. Really try to forgive and forget.
Go To Counseling
Even when both spouses have the best intentions, it can often be hard to make this journey alone. It may be easiest if you can find an impartial observer that can give you rational and unbiased advice. This will only be successful if both spouses are comfortable with the counselor.
Try to remember that all the hard work you do to save your marriage will pay off in the long run. Once you two have gotten past the issues you may discover true happiness together.
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