It rarely begins with a big issue. A relationship that started off well, where both partners loved each other immensely and even lived happily together for a while, can alas turn into an abusive relationship.
One of the greatest signals of a verbal abusive relationship is when your partner thinks you are inferior to him/her. He/she may continuously find fault with you, and would make you feel the need to consult them on all matters, regardless of how insignificant it is. This will result in you feeling inadequate as you too would start to think that not worthy of making decisions for yourself. They may choose to frequenty ignore opinions and propositions made by you, and may dismiss criticisms of their works, as they think they will never falter.
Often the abuser in a verbal abusive relationship finds it important to uphold a good picture of himself when in public. This would mean that they treat you better in public or in the company of others than they would when it is just the two of you.
Have you ever felt that your partner is constantly trying to make you feel jealous, be it by comparing you to former partners, or by flirting with other men when you are around? This is another usual tactic attempted by abusers in a verbal abusive relationship. This is an effort to make you feel the need to keep an eye on him/her, out of concern that they may cheat on you, even when they have no intention whatsoever of actually leaving you.
Once you have figured out whether you are actually in a verbal abusive relationship, the next step is to figure out what you should do to either make your relationship work, or in cases where the situation is irreparable, how to leave your better half.
Now would be the time to act! You do not want to spend several more months of your life being in failing relationship, because as time passes you are only causing more harm to yourself both psychologically and emotionally. A verbally abusive relationship may likewise affect how your kids act as they constantly watch you being mistreated by your partner. If you have tried making your verbal abusive relationship work by visiting a counselor along with your partner, and the abuse still continues, it would be best if you walk away.
