Wedding Invitation Wording After Already Getting Married?

My husband is in the Army and we went to the court house and got married a few months before he deployed to Afghanistan for a year. From the very beginning we have been planning to have an actual wedding and ceremony once he gets back, so that we can celebrate with our families and friends and so that we can say our vows to each other. I am trying to figure out what to write on the invitations because as I said, we are already married, and the ceremony will only be for family and close friends because the ceremony location is quite small, and the whole guest list is over 250. Any suggestions on the wording for the invitations??

Thank you!

Suggestion:

We were married 2 1/2 years ago in his country so none of my family could attend and there were no vows exchanged. We are having a ceremony here in October and this is what I put on my wedding invites.

Please share our joy as we
name of bride
and
name of groom
exchange vows
on location, time, etc.

It is NOT tacky, it is not a chance to grab at gifts. Your friends and family will know that. The only problem I see is in having a small wedding and a large reception. That's because people might feel slighted for not being invited to the ceremony too.

I guess the invites for the reception should read something like
In the spirit of the season
we have found the perfect reason
to gather friends and family
please join us in celebrating
our recent exchange of vows.

Any way something to that effect.
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You're married, you can't have a wedding without getting divorced first. That courthouse wedding was the actual wedding, this re-enactment would be a scripted drama. If you wanted your dream wedding, you should have gone for it on your actual wedding day.

My advice is that instead of sending out wedding invitations you should be sending out wedding announcements.

Attention to orders. he must get written permission first from the army but they will give it

Write something like,

Last year we were married but without you there it was lacking
So now as we plan to retake our vows we would be very
very hopeful that you could be with us on our great day

This is really tacky. You're already married, yet you're having another marriage ceremony (which is dodgy enough). But to make it worse, the ceremony will be small, yet you're throwing a bash for 250? I'm not trying to be rude, but I can promise people are going to look at this like a gift grab, especially since you're already a married woman.

That's why you're having trouble with the invites – what you're doing makes no sense. Why not invite all the same people to the same event, and call it a marriage celebration or something? You can even have an officiant present who will incorporate new vows, but pretending this is a wedding just won't work. You're already married.

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