When my relationship ended after many years of what I thought were bliss, and I had to then after a period of time wanted to start dating again I looked around there was not a lot of information there for 40 something females.I like the saying by Mae West who states “your only as old as the men you feel”, this saying always makes me smile and then I never get that too old syndrome as there are too many things I wish to do.
At first there is a certain amount of time of reflections on the different stages you go through as a couple. One of the stages is the what if I had done this differently, or if only I had paid more attention to the tell tale signs that the relationship was in dire trouble at that particular time, there were no self help books available out at the time that would stop and save my marriage
I had to get it in my head that the relationship had been left to die through lack of communication and the same old boring routines.
All relationships go through different stages, you just need to be ready for each stage and just talk and this alone brings back those loving feelings when you two just connect again. The sex is spontaneous, exciting and fun and in the earlier stages you can’t get enough of each other.
The so called honeymoon period is short lived as you move into more of a routine and then for some reason (must be boredom sets in) the next stage is like the rebellious teenager and you begin looking to find stimulating interests, all the time thinking at the back of your mind that you have missed out on something because you got married.
Check out the first signs that there may be problems act NOW and become involved with each other one may want dance classes the other may want to go bowling have turn around but do these things together.
After the first few classes one partner is more enthusiastic than the other, they decide the don’t want to go along to the classes but not wanting to cramp your style encourage you to still continue having lessons.
The other person is having a ball laughing and generally having fun.First sign your at different stages one is happy to stay at home watching the tube, and you just want to do something different.Sometimes without communication one person in the relationship is weighing things up mentally and saying I don’t want to sit at home.
Let’s stop here you can already see what is happening and if you think long and hard you will know when the cracks started to appear, and you need to act now before the decay sets in and stop and save your marriage today.
To stop the rot and regardless if you have children or not you need to make time to start dating again. The time is needed for you to spend special moments together so that you can reconnect. If you decide to make it a weekend away, go for long walks holding hands this gives you time to talk about everything and anything get to know the person you fell in love with all over again.
By having them alone this certainly creates more opportunity to have wild carefree sex and you need to create the atmosphere, have dinner with candle light, drag out the sexy nightie, if it still not obvious where this is leading to, initiate love making. After reading this You become the leader in the relationship by You making the decision not to do the same things all the time freshen up the relationship. Try a new position or place when you make love take full advantage of the fact that you are on your own.
Start doing this today, tomorrow is too late. It is never too hard to take the first step it gets easier when dating on a regular basis
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