Okay, so it is Saturday night, and instead of having a flirting good time with a gorgeous date you are sitting at home browsing internet dating profiles. And cursing your luck, or rather the lack of it. Not to mention the whole moping around thing, kind of like when you wanted that little hot new outfit but could not afford it.
Seriously? Time for a change in attitude. I am not lecturing or anything, but blaming all and sundry because you are not out being wined and dined is just not very productive. Chances are it is no one’s fault but your own. But fret not! It is likely a quick fix, and before you know it you will be on your way to make-out town.
Single Scene 1: You Are Waiting Before Dating
So you are reading this while home alone on a Saturday night, which means that you are home, by yourself, on a weekend night. And you are not too happy about it. Listen, not having a date is no excuse for not having fun. Moreover, how are you going to meet people who might ask you out if you stay home all the time?
You have heard of dressing for success, right? Social situations are no different. You are not going to meet anyone dressed in sweatpants, no matter how comfy they are when you are parked on the couch. Time to get your ass moving, put on something amazing and get out there to be seen. Join your friends, live it up, and someone is sure to notice that you are the life of the party.
Single Situation #2: Hard to Get is not just Playtime
It is all well and good to adapt your survival skills for the modern dating jungle; sometimes just a little social strategizing and emotional game playing is not only allowed, it is advisable. There is nothing wrong with consciously deciding to not be an easy, over-eager mess of a person. I would actually strongly advise against not being that.
However, if you have been playing the hard-to-get role for long enough, and strictly enough, there is a chance that it stops being a game and starts being who you are; you want to be coy, not aloof and disinterested.
Okay, so you do not throw yourself at every person who shows you some attention. That is playing it cool. On the other hand, if you are consistently acting uninterested, then guess what? People will actually think that you REALLY are not interested at all. And the game will be over before it even has a chance to begin.
Single Scenario 3: You Think You Know it All
Yes, I am talking about you. Five minutes of conversation with someone and you think you have it all figured out. You could write a book on the innermost psychological workings of men. You are so sure of your superior knowledge of the male mind that you reject dates left right and center because you already “know” that they are not for you.
This is going to be a bit of a blow to your ego, so hang on to your hat. You are wrong; you do not know it all. Though you claim that all “the good ones are taken”, it is only because you dismiss them out of hand. It is the people reading skills you are so proud of that are keeping you from meeting anyone interesting. And they are also standing in the way of someone interesting getting to know you.
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